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Oct 23, 2022 - 5:22:30 PM
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10717 posts since 3/19/2009

Waxing sentimental here tonight.. I had a client who I saw for the best part of 25 years, once a week. When I met her, Rose, she could walk, then in a few years she needed a cane and later a walker.. Eventually she needed a wheelchair and finally she was bedridden as a quadriplegic. She suffered from Multiple Sclerosis. In the final year that visited her weekly, it was always on the day that she had to take this one BIG 'horse pill'.. Rose couldn't do anything, even so little of a thing as scratch her nose. She couldn't feed herself or even move a muscle.... she could only talk feebly.... and swallow that pill.. Each time she took the pill with an offered swig of water, she'd get SO excited and say something like, "See? I swallowed that pill all by myself". She always made the comment in a very self assured, pleased way.. Having not a ounce of ability to care for herself, she still had that ONE ability left in her and she was excited about it. After she passed away, that attitude about the pill kept coming back to me..
Just being able to do ONE thing made her feel that she had some power left..
FIDDLING... we can get so discouraged sometimes as learners but if we could just appreciate those ONE things we Can do we'd be better served. Learning to fiddle or to play a particular tune is really all about just doing ONE thing after another.. I'm suggesting we appreciate the little things that we can do and not get down ourselves or be frustrated by what we've yet to learn.. Take a little time to enjoy and FEEL appreciation/excitement that my friend Rose felt by being able to do no more than swallow a pill..Cheers.

Oct 23, 2022 - 7:31:39 PM
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50 posts since 6/28/2008

Yea Rose! and Yea Lee!! and Yea One Thing! and One Thing After Another! For as long as we can!!!

Oct 23, 2022 - 8:03:02 PM
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14110 posts since 9/23/2009

That's a powerful tale. A lot of people suffer some pretty difficult things and some really find amazing resolve to do whatever it is that needs doing, regardless of the difficulties. Some of our college friends sang a Paul Simon song at our wedding ... Some Folks Live Roll Easy...this reminds me of that song. I think it was a brand new album when we were getting married and our musical genius friends figured it out right away and played it for us...I could never dance, but we sorta walked around holding onto one another...lol...I think that counts...anyway...this story makes me think of that old song...a lot of life lessons in there.

Oct 24, 2022 - 7:23:49 AM
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667 posts since 7/30/2021

This is touching and makes me sad...but what a great reminder to appreciate the things we CAN do, and not fret so much over the things we can't...Rose sounds amazing.

Edited by - NCnotes on 10/24/2022 07:24:24

Oct 25, 2022 - 12:40:09 PM
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10717 posts since 3/19/2009

There were other times when I witnessed Roses' resolve.. When I had to get her from her wheelchair to the massage table, I'd work hard to get her into a standing position.. When I got her standing and she was stabilized, she would often say, "There..I'm Standing.. See? I can do this"... Just another bit of attitude that I admired..

Oct 25, 2022 - 9:08:55 PM
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6083 posts since 9/26/2008

This is touching but should really be posted under a different heading than "Playing the Fiddle/Playing Advice"
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Oct 26, 2022 - 4:11:17 AM
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14110 posts since 9/23/2009

Well I thought his main point was that Rose could stand for a moment or two and that was where her focus was, rather than all that she couldn't do...and take solace in the fiddling accomplishments you have and go from there, instead of focusing on the things you can't seem to do (yet). But I don't know...we get so little conversation here and at times seems to me Lee is the sole fiddler who gets the talk going lots of times...so...I don't think it matters this much where any topic lands...I just look over the forum and see last responses like three days ago...etc., and it's such a happy thing to see an active topic. Lol...that's my take on it...just talk, guys. I mean, I say that, coming from the one who has finally learned nearing my next decade that my problems throughout the decades have come from my blabbering mouth...lol...yet, I say...talk, people...talk...I guess one could pose arguments abot where the fine lines are drawn as to topic subjects and/ or drifts or whatever, but me...if at all related to fiddling, and almost everything in life seems to be, I don't care where the topics land, in my own view...lol... just talk.

Edited by - groundhogpeggy on 10/26/2022 04:13:44

Oct 26, 2022 - 4:32:44 AM

10717 posts since 3/19/2009

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Originally posted by ChickenMan

This is touching but should really be posted under a different heading than "Playing the Fiddle/Playing Advice"
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Not sure I agree.. My "playing advice" is to have Roses' appreciation of the little things we can accomplish on a fiddle.. Either way, it is not possible to change where it is posted at this point.  

Edited by - TuneWeaver on 10/26/2022 04:33:44

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