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OK enough about fiddlers.. How about their wives/husbands??

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Sep 18, 2019 - 3:43:20 PM
7615 posts since 3/19/2009

In a recent post, member Wyobob mentioned his wife of 50 year putting up with his musical adventures... How has YOUR wife/husband been important to YOU musical adventures..??

Sep 18, 2019 - 4:26:41 PM
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4262 posts since 9/26/2008

I gave my wife guitar lessons. When we met and guitar lessons came up, she asked, “Can you play ‘Dueling Banjos’?” I proceeded to play both the guitar part and the banjo part (by shifting to play very close to the bridge). She hired me. Apparently her previous teacher didn’t know that tune wink When we started dating, I told her, “Music is a part of me and we are a package deal; if me being out late or away due to gigs is something that bothers you, now’s the time to speak up.” 

We’ve been together for 25 years.  Also, she started with fiddle, not me. I just became fascinated with the tiny box with wires and the noise it could make, and next thing you know, I’m fiddling and she gave it up. She has so many other interests and hobbies taking up her time.

Sep 18, 2019 - 4:54:59 PM
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2434 posts since 10/6/2008

My husband of thirty-seven years has always supported my musical interests. He’s worked hard to learn to play the banjo and of all the people I’ve had a chance to play with, he’s my favorite. Being able to do that once in a while is a delightful and comfortable thing.

Sep 18, 2019 - 6:06:42 PM
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58 posts since 11/24/2018

In my fantasy world, me and my wife would be one of those fun couples that I read about on forums such as this one, that play fiddle and banjo together or something.
The truth is.... She doesn't really share the interest all that much.
On the upside, she has a really nice singing voice, so we often sing together

Sep 18, 2019 - 8:01:39 PM
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Fiddler

USA

3964 posts since 6/22/2007
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A mutual friend introduce me to my future wife in 1981. She had just moved to Dallas from Detroit, Michigan. While in Michigan was active in the folk dance scene where she had learned to clog and call contras. We were both at a Dallas Folk Music Society meeting, when at the break, a friend introduced us saying that she clogged. So, I played fiddle and she clogged, and, as they say. the rest is history. Because of my work travel schedule, our first "date" was a month later.

Within three months, we organized the first contra dance in Dallas and then started the North Texas Traditional Dance Society that is still active today! She did the calling while I organized the open band. A few years later, we married. A few years later she decided that she wanted to join the band, so we bought a nice bass and she provided rock solid rhythm for the dances. However, playing music and hauling furniture around was not her passion, so it didn't last but a few years.

She has supported all of my music endeavors. However, I try to keep a balance and stay grounded in what is important. Oh, did I mention that we like to dance? We don't do as much as we used to, but we're in an area of deep Czech heritage, so there is always a polka band laying somewhere.

Edited by - Fiddler on 09/18/2019 20:04:33

Sep 19, 2019 - 1:03:39 AM

Dragonslayer

Mozambique

102 posts since 9/1/2019

Don't know, haven't met her yet......

Sep 19, 2019 - 5:40:13 AM

RobBob

USA

2644 posts since 6/26/2007

What about them? Ha!

Sep 19, 2019 - 5:52:24 AM
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351 posts since 8/10/2017

My partner likes to listen to music. He will sometimes go to listen to the session but he never goes to listen to the old-time jam because he doesn't like it. He grumbles a little because I have a lot of instruments, but I have mostly a lot of different kinds of instruments, not a lot of any one kind. And he has no right to talk because he has a lot of crap himself. Really, when it comes to music there's not a lot of overlap for us, it's mostly something I do on my own.

Sep 19, 2019 - 10:49:51 AM
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Viper

USA

213 posts since 1/6/2011

I started playing banjo a few months before I met my wife, then fiddle a couple years after we were married. She has supported my interests from the beginning, though has never shown a serious interest in learning an instrument herself, except maybe the bass. Maybe one of these days we'll be able to afford one for her to try. We just celebrated our eighth anniversary last week.

Sep 19, 2019 - 11:05:52 AM
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7615 posts since 3/19/2009

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Originally posted by sbhikes2

My partner likes to listen to music. He will sometimes go to listen to the session but he never goes to listen to the old-time jam because he doesn't like it. He grumbles a little because I have a lot of instruments, but I have mostly a lot of different kinds of instruments, not a lot of any one kind. And he has no right to talk because he has a lot of crap himself. Really, when it comes to music there's not a lot of overlap for us, it's mostly something I do on my own.


This reminds me.. My fiddling daughter, Katie... She started dating a 'new guy' a couple of years ago.. Within 5 minutes of meeting him I told him, "I just want to inform you that if Katie ever has to choose between you and her fiddle, she'll probably choose the fiddle. You need to know that right up front"...I was serious.. Of course that doesn't meant that I'm right.. Sometimes it is important to put the fiddle Down for one reason or another...But it is generally  unfair IMO for someone to put a fiddler into a position where they have to choose a lifelong passion and a jealous partner...Fortunately, her boyfriend has slowly taken up playing his guitar in our jams and just may get into the culture...

I think we have discussed on the Hangout how some fiddlers have had to stop playing for a number of years... Life Happens...

Edited by - TuneWeaver on 09/19/2019 11:07:08

Sep 19, 2019 - 12:50:44 PM
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2941 posts since 6/21/2007

Not just fiddlers, Lee. I've played guitar (folk & classical) since the late 1950's, but the Goya wound up spending years at a time in the closet because - life & job. Still, it would call out to me every so often, and I would wind up dragging it out for a time, which varied from days to years.

When I got interested in OT music, adding the banjo, then the fiddle, seemed to bring out the guitar more often also. Now, all three of them hang on the wall along with a ukulele and a mountain dulcimer and get played somewhat regularly.

Sep 19, 2019 - 5:59:24 PM
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351 posts since 8/10/2017

My partner isn't jealous or disapproving. He's just not that interested. The thing that binds us is hiking.

Oct 3, 2019 - 8:59:34 PM
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bitman

USA

8 posts since 9/1/2019

My wife is a bass player. She is ever so supportive of her old man and his desire to fiddle....someday. I played "what child is this" for her and she said "nice vibrato" knowing what a arduous hurdle that was and is for a player of but a year and a half.

She bought me and acoustic violin for last Christmas. It's alarming to me how loud it is. So as to not upset the neighbors I keep it in it's case and stay unplugged on my Amazon special until I suck less.

I lover her ever so much.

Oct 4, 2019 - 6:29:42 PM
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1394 posts since 12/11/2008

Hate, hate, hate. But hates my piano playing even more... Loves my guitar playing, though.

Oct 5, 2019 - 7:00:01 AM
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10351 posts since 9/23/2009

My husband of...can't remember how many years...43 I think it is now...he's not into it at all. I don't know anybody into it at this point...lol...actually...but he has always been supportive and puts up with a lot because of my music obsession. I appreciate that very much...the music often causes me to skip making meals or getting dishes or other things done...he's very understanding and tries to jump in and pick up the slack for me when i just have to record something on the presonus. Since I don't like to eat in restaurants or jump in the car and take trips, we don't have to deal with how to handle gigs or jams or festivals...just mainly dealing with my recording obsession. I never practice or play except when i get a presonus attack...lol...that's it. He even tippy-toes down to the "studio hole" and refills my coffee for me when I'm down there doin' my thang.

Oct 6, 2019 - 6:29:53 AM
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bsed

USA

3965 posts since 6/23/2007

quote:
Originally posted by TuneWeaver
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Originally posted by sbhikes2

My partner likes to listen to music. He will sometimes go to listen to the session but he never goes to listen to the old-time jam because he doesn't like it. He grumbles a little because I have a lot of instruments, but I have mostly a lot of different kinds of instruments, not a lot of any one kind. And he has no right to talk because he has a lot of crap himself. Really, when it comes to music there's not a lot of overlap for us, it's mostly something I do on my own.


This reminds me.. My fiddling daughter, Katie... She started dating a 'new guy' a couple of years ago.. Within 5 minutes of meeting him I told him, "I just want to inform you that if Katie ever has to choose between you and her fiddle, she'll probably choose the fiddle. You need to know that right up front"...I was serious.. Of course that doesn't meant that I'm right.. Sometimes it is important to put the fiddle Down for one reason or another...But it is generally  unfair IMO for someone to put a fiddler into a position where they have to choose a lifelong passion and a jealous partner...Fortunately, her boyfriend has slowly taken up playing his guitar in our jams and just may get into the culture...

I think we have discussed on the Hangout how some fiddlers have had to stop playing for a number of years... Life Happens...


On a related note, if I was ever to get a tatoo, I would get one of a fiddle something or other. I wouldn't get my wife's name. Partners can be transitory (though we've been together 31 years).

Oct 14, 2019 - 10:37:36 PM
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BobY04

USA

5 posts since 10/14/2019

I'm 29 now but I couldn't care less about getting married or having a partner. Maybe in 5 years.

Oct 14, 2019 - 11:59:59 PM

7615 posts since 3/19/2009

quote:
Originally posted by bsed
quote:
Originally posted by TuneWeaver
quote:
Originally posted by sbhikes2

My partner likes to listen to music. He will sometimes go to listen to the session but he never goes to listen to the old-time jam because he doesn't like it. He grumbles a little because I have a lot of instruments, but I have mostly a lot of different kinds of instruments, not a lot of any one kind. And he has no right to talk because he has a lot of crap himself. Really, when it comes to music there's not a lot of overlap for us, it's mostly something I do on my own.


This reminds me.. My fiddling daughter, Katie... She started dating a 'new guy' a couple of years ago.. Within 5 minutes of meeting him I told him, "I just want to inform you that if Katie ever has to choose between you and her fiddle, she'll probably choose the fiddle. You need to know that right up front"...I was serious.. Of course that doesn't meant that I'm right.. Sometimes it is important to put the fiddle Down for one reason or another...But it is generally  unfair IMO for someone to put a fiddler into a position where they have to choose a lifelong passion and a jealous partner...Fortunately, her boyfriend has slowly taken up playing his guitar in our jams and just may get into the culture...

I think we have discussed on the Hangout how some fiddlers have had to stop playing for a number of years... Life Happens...


On a related note, if I was ever to get a tatoo, I would get one of a fiddle something or other. I wouldn't get my wife's name. Partners can be transitory (though we've been together 31 years).


Bruce, It I was a young guy still shopping around for a partner.. I'd have a tattoo that said, "babe!"  Covers all bases..

Oct 15, 2019 - 12:26:52 PM
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bsed

USA

3965 posts since 6/23/2007

You're a genius, Lee!

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